Tråden for de single

[Sir Winston]

Jeg abonnerer på David DeAngelo e-mails og jeg fikk en mail ang. damer og Valentine's Day. Jeg vet at Valentine er over for lenge siden nå, men kanskje noen tips til neste Valentine, eller noen tips generelt. (Jeg vet ikke hvordan det er med copyrights, men får håpe han ikke gidde å saksøke meg )

 

 

David D's Thoughts On Valentine's Day

 

OK, 'twas the night before Valentine's Day and

all through the house, not a creature was

stirring... well, except for David D., who's up

late writing another newsletter for you.

 

  ...And since I basically defiled a cherished

Christmas poem to begin with, it's probably worth

mentioning that technically it's the night BEFORE

the night before Valentine's Day for me...

 

  Whatever.

 

  So, I have been thinking a lot about

Valentine's Day lately... and I've been talking

about it with friends as well.

 

  As I was reading some of my AO-Hell email, I

noticed that there were not one... not two... but

THREE different ads inside of EVERY email viewer

window selling FLOWERS for Valentine's Day. You

gotta love AO-Hell's way of sneaking those ads

into every one of your emails, huh?

 

  ANYWAY, as I was realizing what BIG BUSINESS

Valentine's Day must be, I started wondering...

 

  Where the heck did Valentine's Day come from?

 

  So, I decided to do a little research.

 

  Well, as it turns out, there are several

different stories about the origin of Valentine's

Day. But one of them is by far the most common.

 

  Wanna hear it? Here it goes...

 

  So, back in about the year 270 A.D. or so,

there was a priest named, you guessed it,

Valentine. Some versions of the story said that he

was a Bishop. Either way...

 

  In those days the Emperor needed men for his

army and he decided that it wasn't good to have

men marrying up with women... because then the men

would be more attached to their families than the

army.

 

  So, the Emperor OUTLAWED marriage.

 

  Yep, he said, "It's illegal to get married".

 

  Those were the days, huh?

 

  OK, so Priest and/or Bishop Valentine decided

that he was going to help young lovers out by

marrying them in SECRET.

 

  Well, the Emperor got wind of this business,

and put a stop to it in a "New York Minute".

 

  So, here's Priest/Bishop Valentine sitting

alone in prison and who comes along? The super-

babe, young daughter of the jail owner's

daughter... and, of course, he falls in love with

her.

 

  One version of the story I read said that she

was blind and he healed her of her blindness.

 

  In any event, right before his execution (yeah,

they killed him for performing marriages), he

wrote a letter to this girl he was in love with

and at the end signed it "From Your Valentine".

 

  And then he was executed.

 

  OK... Fast forward several centuries, and now

everyone is out buying heart-shaped cards,

chocolate, and long-stemmed red roses for women

who have come to expect them.

 

  Gotta love it!

 

  Aside from me wanting to know what the HECK a

Catholic Priest was doing falling in love with a

youngster way back in the year 270 (Over 1,700

years before this kind of thing was fashionable),

I want to know how this turned into men chasing

women around with gifts in the year 2006!

 

  I get it, I get it. It's nice to have a day out

of the year to celebrate your love for that

special someone in your life. Very cute.

 

  And if you're reading this right now and you're

married... or you've had a girlfriend for a year

or two... then by all means, get her some flowers

and chocolate... and one of those cute pink cards.

 

  But what about the REST of us?

 

  Well, here's a little gem of wisdom from one of

my all time favorite books, "The Rules". Yeah, the

book that teaches women how to manipulate men into

marrying them...

 

  Here's it is:

 

  "RULE 12: Stop dating him if he doesn't buy you

a romantic gift for your birthday or Valentine's

Day."

 

  Nope, I'm not kidding.

 

  By the way, a whole CHAPTER is dedicated to

this rule in the book.

 

  In the chapter, it basically says that if a man

doesn't buy you jewelry (or some other romantic

gift) for one of these holidays, then you should

dump him, because he's not going to buy you the

"big gift" of an engagement ring.

 

  Now, before I present my radical extremist

opposing perspective, I must first give you the

disclaimer...

 

  I think that long-term relationships are great,

and if you're one of the lucky guys on this planet

who has found a really exceptional woman, then

more power to you, and I hope she likes the

romantic gifts that you got her. Really.

 

  But, for all the rest of us single guys (or

guys who have just started dating a woman), I

think that Valentine's Day can be kind of a drag.

 

  Why?

 

  Because there's another, more "subtle" message

that this whole event communicates: The way to win

a woman's heart is to buy her flowers, gifts, and

jewelry... and to confess your feelings for her.

And if she still doesn't like you, then you

probably didn't get her enough gifts, or say the

right things in the card.

 

  While this idea of giving romantic gifts to

show your love might be wonderful and healthy for

LONGER-TERM relationships, it's usually a HORRIBLE

concept for guys to use with women that they have

just met, or who they've only dated a few times.

 

  Even worse, for guys who don't have the skills

to meet women and get dates, it's downright

DEPRESSING.

 

  I think that the Valentine's Day section of all

stores should have a sign that says "No one who

has been in a relationship less than 6-12 months

allowed".

 

  Why's that?

 

  Because, if you "Go Valentine's Day" on a girl

that doesn't know you very well (especially an

unusually attractive one), you'll probably only be

talking to her for another week or two.

 

  Here's the problem...

 

  MOST of the things that us guys have been

brought up believing about how to "pursue" women

is WRONG.

 

  IT DOESN'T WORK.

 

  Your mom loved you, but all that stuff she

taught you about how to be a nice, respectable,

ass-kissing Wuss Bag was waaaaaaayyyy off the

mark.

 

  See, the period from when you first meet a

woman, up until the first 10 dates or so, is VERY

different from ALL OTHER TIMES IN YOUR LIFE.

 

  All of the rules you've learned about how to

behave, how to be "nice", how to "make friends",

how to treat people with kindness, etc., are

USELESS here.

 

  And EVEN WORSE, all the things you've learned

about how to pursue women with gifts, food, and

compliments will BACKFIRE on you big time if you

use them here.

 

  THIS PART OF THE GAME IS DIFFERENT.

 

  And events like Valentine's Day, no matter how

well-meaning they might be intended, definitely

program us single guys with the WRONG way to

behave around women we're attracted to (but not in

a long-term relationship with).

 

  So, what's the answer?

 

  What should we be doing on Valentine's Day?

 

  And how should we be feeling?

 

  Well, here's a little self-tester and self-help

quiz for you. If the statement and question

applies to you, then do what comes after it...

 

1) "I just met this girl and I really like her.

Should I go out and buy her something really nice

for Valentine's Day?"

 

>>> If you just met her, then you should probably

hold back... no big gifts. If you get a big,

romantic gift for her, you're going to give her

the idea that you're VERY into her. At this point,

most women go into "play hard to get" mode, and

become more and more difficult. If you really like

her, do the things that have worked to attract

her... don't turn into a needy Wuss who seems like

he's trying to buy her love and approval.

 

2) "I'm afraid that if I don't buy my girl

something really nice for Valentine's Day, she'll

leave me. What should I do?"

 

>>> The quack psychologist inside of me has a

message for you: If you're insecure about your

relationship with a woman to the point that you

believe you have to BUY her attention, then HIT

THE ROAD. If you're dating a woman who is

interested in you for ANYTHING other than the

feeling she gets from being with you... then

you're in big trouble, and you don't even realize

it. Down the road, she's going to be your worst

nightmare. Trust me.

 

3) "I'm single and lonely. What can I do to get

over this feeling of loneliness?"

 

>>> The BEST thing you can do is get out there

and meet some women! Duh!

 

  I was just chatting with a couple of different

friends of mine who are both GREAT with women.

They're both single guys who meet women anytime

they want.

 

  As it turns out, both of these guys had to

LEARN these skills.

 

  They started out having almost ZERO success

with women.

 

  We were talking about Valentine's Day, and how

most guys run around chasing after women... buying

them things... and generally acting needy with

women that they hardly know... hoping to get some

love and approval.

 

  Here are a couple more things that both of

these guys have in common:

 

1) They both have TONS of women calling them all

the time.

 

2) They both avoid buying a Valentine's Day gift

for ANY of the women they're seeing.

 

  Their perspectives (and mine, as well) are that

if you know how to meet women anytime you want,

and women are attracted to you because of the

FEELINGS that they get when they're with you (as

opposed to the thing you buy them), then YOU get

to make the rules.

 

  My point is that if you are lonely and you're

feeling bad about all this Valentine's Day

business, then get up and DO something about it.

 

  Get some skills. Meet some women.

 

  Be the guy who GETS Valentine's Day gifts...

instead of the guy who GIVES them.

 

  You watch.

 

  Mark my words, next week or the week after, in

one of these newsletters, you're going to see

stories from guys who had women buying them all

kinds of fancy things for Valentine's Day. And

then the guy will mention that he got gifts from

two or three other women as well.

 

  I can remember when I used to think that I had

to buy women jewelry, flowers, and gifts to get

their love and approval and affection.

 

  I did that for years.

 

  And it never worked very well.

 

  Well, after spending several YEARS studying the

secrets that "naturals" use to attract women, I

can see WHY it never worked very well.

 

  If you want to be one of the guys who GETS all

the gifts on Valentine's Day... and who has his

phone ringing off the hook from women calling HIM,

then I recommend you check out my eBook and my

Advanced Dating Techniques program.

 

  Inside, I'll teach you all of the steps to

turning the odds in your favor... and how to meet

the kinds of women that you've always wanted.

 

  Valentine's Day is a pain for a lot of guys.

But it doesn't HAVE to be that way. Take some

action and take things into your own hands.

 

Endret 18. februar 2006 av Sir Winston

[Zappza]

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[Sir Winston]

Sir Winston, Spoiler tag ftw

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Hvordan får man til det?

[ManagHead]

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[Det Dvergiske Kaffebord]

Jeg er vel så singel som det er mulig å bli. Og har vel egentlig alltid vært det. Og vet du hva? Jeg lever faktisk i beste velgående. Jeg kan la vær å barbere meg uten at noen klager på det, jeg kan sitte på pcen så lenge jeg vil, jeg kan gjøre hva jeg vil når jeg vil.

 

Sannheten er vel at hvis drømmedamen hadde kommet til meg så hadde vel jeg ikke sagt nei takk. Såfremt at det var henne som tok initaivet.

[H4ngm4N]

Har et intensivt kjærlighetsforhold til musikken jeg hører på jeg.

 

(Ja, jeg er singel så det synger. )

[MyBigMouth]

*melde meg på*

[TanglewoodD]

Singel, men ingen problemer med det!

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Nettopp ! Høyre hånda går et par mnd/dager/år til !

[L4r5]

Singel, men ingen problemer med det!

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Nettopp ! Høyre hånda går et par mnd/dager/år til !

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Trenger man variasjon så har man den venstre

[sparks]

er ikke sunt å høre single gutter grine om at de ikke har kjæreste.. dere er på feil sted for å finne en! kom dere ut!

[L4r5]

er ikke sunt å høre single gutter grine om at de ikke har kjæreste.. dere er på feil sted for å finne en! kom dere ut!

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Hvem griner? Har det helt greit jeg... Bare tenkte at siden vi hadde den überstore kjærlighetstråden og valentinesday-tråden osv. så kanskje det var på sin plass med en tråd for folk som var single også...

[Silje:]

kjede brev er like kjedelig uansett når man får dem. Men om en er alle gutters drøm så kanskje en får litt fler?

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Worst pickup-line ever.

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Sjalu?

[Fredrik]

Sjalu? 

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Funket den?

[Archangel]

Single jeg også, helt greit for meg...har alltid vært det.

 

Kan ikke si at jeg leter heller det er kun noe som skjer.

Siste "pasjonen" for noen var vel sånn ca 4 1\2 år siden, men hun har jeg ikke sett på over 20 måneder nå.

Endret 19. februar 2006 av Archangel

[Silje:]

Sjalu? 

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Funket den?

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Ta det med ro, lille venn! :!:

[Det Dvergiske Kaffebord]

er ikke sunt å høre single gutter grine om at de ikke har kjæreste.. dere er på feil sted for å finne en! kom dere ut!

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Jeg siterer meg selv:

Jeg er vel så singel som det er mulig å bli. Og har vel egentlig alltid vært det. Og vet du hva? Jeg lever faktisk i beste velgående. Jeg kan la vær å barbere meg uten at noen klager på det, jeg kan sitte på pcen så lenge jeg vil, jeg kan gjøre hva jeg vil når jeg vil.

 

Whining er for småunger og jenter, ikke noe for harde forumnerder.

[Fredrik]

Ta det med ro, lille venn!  :!:

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Jeg er større enn deg da.

[Silje:]

Det er du heller ikke!

[Fredrik]

Årstallet i profilen er løgn.

 

Er født i '88.

[Silje:]

Ah, you dirty boy! Vitsen?