Divorce with a Norwegian, child, house

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I'm in a very difficult situation and I don't know what to do anymore. I'll try to describe in short.

I'm not Norwegian but I've been living here since 2018.
I got married in Norway in 2022 to a Norwegian citizen. Prior to that we had a long distance relationship from 2012, the relationship was eventually registered here.
In 2021 they took a loan and bought a house on their name. I was not on the buy contract either, just had a registered address there in folkeregisteret.
In 2023 we got a child together.
In 2024 out of the blue separation was announced to me and I was forced out of the house. Locks were changed, I was basically kicked out of shared home and out of my child's life.
I was not able to do anything at all because of poor state and not knowing the law.
Because of my study rights, I ended up renting a student dorm from the university, where I've been living for a year now because I don't have a full time job and it's difficult to find any other place.
These days the ex makes it difficult to see my child. The lawyer is very hesitant about both the case with my child and the economical part about the house or what should be done next. I requested making a court case but I don't get any reply. I can't afford other lawyer either.
On the opposite, it's my ex that applied for a court case and claims that I'm mental and I'm not cut to be a father, so I'm facing a meeting with a court psychologist and court at the end of the year.
Now, apparently the divorce papers were already sent by my ex since we've been separated for a year and my lawyer doesn't even answer if I can just sign them or if it has any impact if we're gonna proceed about the economical matter about the house and if I should wait.
My financial situation is very unstable and NAV refuses to help as well, while she's already receiving forlenget barnetrygd just because I was cut out of the picture. I'm not paying the child support yet because I don't have abilities yet, as my whole living and work situation is uneasy.
I fear that I'm on a very bad path to losing everything and don't know what to do anymore and that the time is running out.

Please, I appreciate any suggestions.
 

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[krikkert]

The status papers (signing/accepting the divorce application) are not relevant for the economic distribution post-breakup. In some very rare cases, the date of the divorce determines the valuation and relevance of your marital assets, but this is rare, and most of the time the date of one party moving out is used. 

You really don't want to go to court to divide marital assets. First of all, this was a very short marriage, so there aren't really significant marital assets to divide. Second, the most significant asset (the house) is most likely hers by virtue of purchase prior to marriage and thus not subject to division. Third, public division of marital assets (offentlig skifte av felleseiet) is expensive because you're effectively paying two lawyers - your own lawyer and half of the costs to the executor. 

As to your visitation court case, there's little to do but wait. 

[Salvesen.]

‘Samværssabotasje’ is legal in Norway, so you only have one choice. Lawsuit. First part is ‘free’, but I would recommend to have a lawyer anyways to stand a chance. And it’s a long process and since your ex is claiming you are sick you have to give evidence that your are not by providing doctor papers, showing ‘sakkyndig’ that you can take care of the child etc.

its a long and sometimes humiliating process. Also, expect a bad outcome even if you prove 100% that you are healty and can take care of the child. Mothers rights are too strong. Especially if the kid is young and can’t tell their mind. 
 

good luck!

 

also, I am writing this as you where from here. Not sure if other things apply for you.